« What if I fail again? »

In the event that you missed my email a few weeks ago, Steve asked me to write a more focused fitness content and a riot feeding.

And since then I have received many emails from people walking around the same thing: lack of faith that can actually Do the change work this time! I bet you can connect:

« The biggest challenge – loss of trust in the process and yourself. »

« Having problems with believing that I will actually help and be afraid that regardless of what I do, I will fail. »

« I’m afraid not to fail, I’m trying not to set myself up, but everything looks so scary. I know all the words about the » right « thinking, but I just can’t find the will/energy/desire to go and do something after work. »

These fears are very, very normal. (Although this does not make them less nasty to deal with!)

So what to do when we feel stuck and scared of how predominant All this feels?

💡 The most important thing

Although every story is different, there is one thing I noticed, which really helps you have a bigger chance of success:

Inertia early – And then protect this impulse.

Early victories make the rest of the trip easier.

And surely, an early victory may seem like seeing how the scale moves or get stronger in the gym.

But these things are results that come weeks or even months Later, after you consistently do « things ». This is not useful at the moment we feel insecure and buried.

That is why I like to start tracking and celebrating efforts.

Choosing 1-2 repeated actions that you can practice every day:

Any action is a victory, which is a small sign of progress.

And if we can recognize and celebrate every action, it begins to build proof that « I am the type of person who can do this even when it is difficult. »

And this little hope?

It may be enough to continue to go through the difficult parts.

👨‍🔬 an example of real life

Let’s take my client, for example, Ben. He was in this exactly the same boat when we started working together.

• Super busy work schedule with an hour trip each time each time
• 4 young children at home
• There was a recent health fear that made him understand that it was time to make a change
• I’m not sure where to start and I’m really afraid that this will be another experience that he tried and failed in

So we talked about all these things openly – The real restrictions on his time and energy, the fear that it would not work, and his hope for a future, in which he felt better and the fitness did not feel so difficult to stick.

And then we chose a few things that we thought could be a good place to start.

✅ 10 minutes of walking during his lunch break

✅ List of orders in restaurants around its work-so it will always have a good option even in a pinch

✅ Pumps from the countertop every time you brush your teeth.

And while these actions can seems Small, they had a huge impact. They allowed us to build consistency and to practice first overcoming obstacles, then we can worry about optimizing the results later.

And that’s where true magic happens – not only in physical changes, but also in thinking:

« I am the type of person who appears. »

« I can trust to follow. »

« I know how to get back on the road when life happens. »

Ask ​Each of our most successful customers​And they will say that the biggest change was not only in their body.

Their biggest change was actually in how they thought For fitness, habits and for whom they believed they could happen.

🕳 The navel

When we begin to try to optimize, we do everything « perfect » from the beginning, it may feel like we are drowning and we cannot maintain.

This simply strengthens the belief that we are not able to make any changes. That we are just one of the people for whom « these things don’t work ».

This is the right trap we are trying to avoid!

Of course, everyone’s starting point is different. You may be able to jump straight into a multi -day training routine or more aggressive changes in nutrition.

The point is not to be forced to take less than you are capable – it is to be sure that you can balance a « challenge » with « enforceable » so that you can build a belief in yourself and the process.

Quickly forward for two years, and Ben’s routine looks much different from where we started.

• He now does a strength workout 4x/week in the morning before work
• It goes through periods in which it traces its calories and macros, and others where we take a more peaceful approach with a common focus on getting many proteins, fruits and vegetables every day
• It gives a dream priority and receives over 8000 steps every day

As Ben intensifies, he lost more than 30 pounds and saw his blood markers improve – it all started with the most important thing: building speed.

🎬 Where to start?

So where does this leave you today? Here’s how I would approach him.

✅ Acknowledge the real challenges and restrictions on your time and energy.

This is not a rach-rach approach to ignore all the heavy things. Admit that it is good and normal to feel that way. (Steve actually just wrote about ​The concept “Notice and name”​ here.)

✅ Start with practice – not perfection.

Focus on repeatable action (as a brief power or protein of two meals), not just the result you want. Think about it as practiceS You will not be perfect. You will make mistakes. And that’s all part of it.

✅ Create visual evidence of your efforts.

In our coaching program, customers check the tasks every day and we can see a visible progress of their efforts.

If you don’t have a coach we like to use something we call Jar of awesome:

Play marble (or paper clip, or coin) in a jar every time you do something in accordance with your goals.

It’s a way to see Your sequence and progress, even before the mirror or rock reflects it.

✅ Celebrate the small wins.

You went today?

Eat carefully?

You missed the All-Or Nothing spiral after a rough day?

This is a profit worth admitting. Process leading to the result.

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If you feel stuck now or even hopeless, let’s see if we can turn the script.

We will start small. We will celebrate the effort.

And we will build this momentum together again.

You have this.

And if you want help to choose your first « quick win », just shoot me a message and will help you find it.

– coach Matt